Batam Bargirls Love, a Greatest Pretender

Let me share my friend’s experience (he is my colleague). In his early day went to Batam to join my company. He met a cute Bartender who is also a cashier in one of the pubs. She had a reputation for not being a cheap girl. Something stupid hit him and he asked her for a date and the next day they went for lunch. They both expressed his interest in wanting to get married as my friend already more than 30 years old and she was in late twenties.

He has a great fancy for her. He even sometime took half day's leave just to teach her how to use the e-mail or having a lunch and come back in the evening.

On one of they regular dates, she confided my friend and told him about her past where she had eloped from her home with a guy and her family cut all ties with her. The guy whom she was going to marry started beat her up every day and soon he left her and married another woman.

Being a very softhearted person, my friend was so sorry. He said he even saw tears in her eyes. He wishes He could give her the best and never make her suffer ever in her life and also try to restore her connections with her family. He also wanted to bring her to his family and show her the importance and fun of belonging to a family.

My friend later at one of afternoon asked her, if she had any boyfriends. She said, "No”. He asked her what did she think of the thought that one day He will ask her to be his girlfriend and she said it was a good idea but she needed a little time to think over it. She made him think that he was really the better candidate as the other was a lazy jobless guy in Batam who she really did not care about.

They continued their regular dates, sent each other a lot of e-mails and also talked a lot over the telephone. She would confide in him with her problems, He helped her with her little daytime business (she still work in the Pub at night). He would sometimes ask her to visit his home at Singapore and she said she would come one day when she had the time.

One day, He tried to call her to tell her that he want to take her out over the weekend but she was not in till the next day. She told him that she had gone to Tanjung Pinang (also small island near Batam) to sell something. He believed her without hesitation.

Nevertheless, they met during the weekend. During Lunch, she mentioned that she needed to borrow Rp.5 million (about US$470) to get a pre-paid card line and a handphone since her handphone was stolen. He told her to go for a broken down payment scheme and He will give her Rp 1 million a month. She agreed and within a week, my friend ran down during lunch time to give her the first payment and immediately returned to work.

Then, very recently, my friend insisted that she come to Singapore and he was annoyed when she was trying to evade this trip. So she came and said that she had to go back in the evening as she could not get leave from work at night. He said it was o.k.

When she came, she was showing off how she had no problems going through immigration and two weeks chop. While she was showing him her passport, my friend managed to see another chop which was dated the day when she said she had gone to Tanjung Pinang. He started being suspicious and when she was having lunch with him, she said that my friend need not accompany her till the boarding gate at WTC. Despite, he insisting to take her to the end, she became agitated and said he need not. He followed his instinct and told her after lunch that He had just signed up for a degree to upgrade himself and He could not keep a promise of being her boyfriend as He need to concentrate on the course (I forgot to say, that my friend previously had told her to make and decision to be my girlfriend or just say no. She said she just cannot make decision now. Then my friend gave her two months). But one occasion he asked for out. She exhibited little emotions and said she wants to be his best friend and prayed the best for his success.

Much later that night, He call her on her HP and in was out of receiving area, So he called her Pub and they said that she had the day off and had gone to Singapore. He knew it.

Further investigations revealed, through reliable resources that she has a string of foreign boyfriends but she plays the game very well. She calls all these including me as "Friends".

Could you believe it, three days after telling a lie that she was working in one company, she had the chick to ask him for Rp5 million. On one of their first date, she lied about her birth date, saying that it was the day before. But looking at her passport my friend found out it was four months before. Once having made a date, she asked my friend to cancel because she said that had signed up for a course and had to attend a course to upgrade but she actually she had to meet another guy. She always knew that my friend was the nice guy, always soft spoken so she could cancel dates easily call off trips to Singapore till my friend got pissed of last week and look how it became a turning point in his life.

She thinks she has got away with it and does not know that he have found out. She wants to be friends with him but my friend doesn’t think that is possible now. She said she will be sending him an e-mail. I feel like telling her I know the whole game.

The moral of the story is never trust these Batam bargirls. Many of them are playgirl and that is what they are. Just get drunk, and never even for a second contemplate a relationship with them. They are the world biggest pretender.